Patrick, United States (he/him)

“You were always enough just the way you are.”

Was there a definitive moment you realized you were trans? How old were you?

I knew for a while I was non-binary when I found that I fit the literal dictionary definition of the word. When I completely stopped female presentation I knew for sure.

How soon after did you start to make changes? What were these changes?

When I divorced my partner and after the election I had no more fucks to give. I felt better. I gave up on giving any care about the opinions of others. I’m 7 months on testosterone. My vitals have improved, a change I was not expecting. I’m stronger, putting on A LOT of mass. My voice is deeper. I have more sex drive.

Have these changes started to make you feel more comfortable in your life and body?

Yes. I will admit to being calmer. More confident. Less anxious and depressed. The suicidal ideation is gone.

What would you tell your younger self? Would you do anything differently?

You CAN put yourself first. It’s ok. You are enough. You were always enough just the way you are.

Is there anything else you'd like to share?

It does get better.

Have the gender-affirming steps you’ve taken impacted your overall happiness and sense of well-being?

Yes.